Pet peeves are those little things that people do that annoy you. I have three or four that come off the top of my head. People who throw their cigarettes out of their car windows are a pet peeve. The world is not your ashtray. People who throw trash out of their car windows is another, related one. The world is not your trash can either. People who honk their horns when the light has just turned and the person in front hasn’t moved yet, is another pet peeve. Give them time for pity’s sake. That doesn’t mean that you should sit there while they putter away the entire light. I’m talking about the people who apparently have their hands on the horn button ready to honk as soon as the light changes. Those people are ridiculous. Of course, those people who sit through the entire light only to go when the light changes again are irritating, and downright dangerous. If you are that sleepy or distracted – get out of the driver’s seat.
Pet peeves are an annoyance. There’s usually nothing you can do about them, people are people, and they will do things that annoy you. What you can do is learn how to blow them off. That is, you can control how it affects you. Control how you respond to your pet peeve and you will be happier.
One way you can deal with them is to sit down and list them, much like what I did here. List them out, then note why it bothers you, ask if you can control the behavior of the person who does it, then ask how you can change your reaction to it. For example, I will do it for the second item on my list. People who honk the second the light changes. That’s the peeve. Why does it bother me? Because honking your horn is supposed to be a warning, not a “get out of my way, I’m more important than you are” kind of thing. Can I change the person’s behavior? No, I can’t. Can I control my reaction? Yes, I can try to feel superior to the honker. I am not so impatient. Well you get the drift.
Control what you can and let the stuff you can’t control go. That’s the best advice that I can give you. How you react can have an adverse effect on your own health, ulcers don’t form themselves, your stress can lead to them. It is the same with heart attacks, they have causes that you can control, for the most part. So control them. Do it to spite those people who do things to annoy you – live longer. That’ll show them.