I’ve been looking into tweeting, but you need to use your phone to tweet. I don’t have a phone that lets me tweet well, so that’s out. I won’t be that connected. I don’t think I want to be in any case. Sometimes you just have to be somewhere where you don’t have to be bothered. That’s why the celebrities are always under the microscope so they melt down. If you aren’t that visible, if you have a bolthole to go to, you can recharge in peace and no one will bother you. Your friends will know that if they can’t find you, you are probably in your bolthole and they should wait until you come out again. It’s only fair.
Everyone needs a little privacy especially people who are constantly in the public eye. They just don’t realize how important it is. They crave it and then it destroys them, because they don’t leave themselves any place to go when they need to be alone. I’m not saying they should go out of the public eye for days on end, but a few hours a day, or a day or two a month, would be beneficial. I think someone did a study that showed that celebrities who keep something back are more viable in the end than those who tell everything to anyone who will listen. People get tired of it. Unfortunately, the celebrities who do that, who do the outrageous behavior are the ones who are the most insecure about themselves. They feel that they have to stay visible or their fans will abandon them. That’s real insecurity. The public’s memory is not noted for retaining things for very long, but we do remember our favorites longer than a week or two. They don’t have to be in the news every day. It’s not as though they disappear when they don’t have the public watching them.
Those people don’t understand that they need me-time. Me-time is a time when a person has to just kick back and relax. People these days don’t get enough me-time and that is what leads to drug and alcohol abuse. I’m not talking about those people who feel invisible all the time, human beings need both me-time and public-time, having too much me-time is just as bad as too much public-time. It’s a delicate balance.
Humans are social animals, but we are also conscious of our individuality and that’s what makes it hard for us. Every day, we walk a tight rope between our sense of space and the instinctive craving for company. That’s what I mean when I talk of the balance between public-time and me-time. Most people handle it rather well. Some celebrities handle it well. They have a public life, but they also have a private life and they manage to keep their private lives private. The ones who bare everything are the ones who end up crashing and burning. I feel sorry for them. I can see their insecurity, because I am their polar opposite.
I don’t have enough public-time. I prefer to lurk in the shadows and not contribute. That’s also bad but I am working on it. I blog once a week and, when I have a job, I try to make friends there. The balance between private and public is hard to maintain sometimes, but millions of people manage it. Everyone should give it a shot.